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Love Thyself

Love Thyself
by Lori Bushey

To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. William Shakespeare

To truly love others, one must be in love with self; this is a lesson I learned from my Mom Rosie.  As another year passes without my Mom, I hear and see more of her wisdom in my life. Rosie would be proud of the woman I have become and of the time I take for love. My Mom worked long hours to make ends meet, often working overtime. Today, overtime is expected and many things in our world have changed, but the cycle continues and evolves through generations. Samsara is the Sanskrit word for birth, life, and death “Wandering “from one life to the next physically, mentally, and spiritually searching for the “Holy Grail” which to me will always be love.

It sometimes seems I have lived many lifetimes and certain periods in history create a “Déjà vu” feeling inside of me. Perhaps we are born again, reincarnated, and destined to live over and over until we get “living” and “loving” right. If that’s the case, I expect to return a few more times to reach my Samadhi or dynamic equilibrium. I sometimes look around and wonder if my friends and relatives who are no longer with me have been “Reborn” again. It is an interesting theory and a beautiful belief that our soul lives on long after our physical body dies. Perhaps it is a panacea to explain and comfort in times of mourning. What I do believe in my heart is that my Mom, my Grandmother, my father, my beloved pets, and dear friends who have transitioned, live on in my life. They are my teachers, my guides, my Gurus, and above all, my love. Yoga teaches us that life is a journey, so travel light and travel with love.

I travel along the path of honesty, loyalty, trust, and respect for all living things. This sacred mantra is an utterance inspired by my roots. Love is integrity and it can be honed and perfected throughout life. No one is perfect, we stumble, we fall, and we get back up again; this is the lesson Rosie taught me. Our parents are our first role models and when we are young, we hang on their every word, but even more so, their actions. Herein lies the problem, children are impressionable and pick up a myriad of habits from those closest to them. Sometimes, these “Role Models” falter in life and the “Watchers” of the code (children) read and feed off of every line. Children grow up and look back to those values and when messages are crossed, confusion and indecision ensues. As we age and the wisdom of experience adds to our life barometer, we understand integrity and self-love. It isn’t about being perfect; it is about remaining “intact” which is from the Latin root of integrity. We carry baggage from our childhood in to adulthood and in order to release this baggage, we need to love and accept self, exactly where we are, for who we are. 

My Mom said, “Your mettle is not tested in the calm of life, but in its storms.” As a kid, who wants trials and unrest, a mother is supposed to heal and resolve all conflicts! But this is not where life is learned, nor living appreciated. It is in crisis that we find out what we are made of and a Mother’s “tough” love is “true” love. My Mom would define true love of self with one word, altruism, the unselfish regard for, or devotion to the welfare of others, but only through love of self-first. To truly love self one must abide by a few simple tenets:

1. Make life about your higher power and others.

2.  A secure person can endure sunshine or storms.

3.  Honesty and trust go a long way, especially with self.

4.  Keep to your word and promises.

The last time I saw my Mom she took my hand in hers and said “I will always be with you.” She kept her promise and as I go through life, my Mom is with me, an infinite gift of love. Her messages are divinely timed and now I am open to living a life of integrity and purpose by loving myself and others. I wish you a Happy, Healthy Valentine’s Day with the love of your life, YOU!
Peace and Namaste.

About Lori Bushey:

Lori Bushéy is an Advanced Placement Literature and Composition instructor with an education background from Exeter College, Oxford University, England, the University of Minnesota, and the College of St. Scholastica. 

Lori is the TruWell Spiritual Coach providing meditation and Yoga education. Lori also teaches yoga at Clearwater Fit, and Ashtanga-based Yoga on Clearwater Beach. Working remotely enabled Lori to practice daily and develop discipline of the mind and body. After an extensive home practice Lori pursued and earned her RYT Training at Anala Yoga under the direction of Ally Ford and is currently working on her 500 hour RYT. Lori lives the yoga lifestyle and truly believes in the positive benefits of the practice. If you ask her “What is yoga?” her response will be, in the words of Rodney Yee, “Yoga is poetry of the body”  and what else would you expect from an English major? Namaste and continue to cultivate Seva.

Lori may be reached at:  labegr@aol.com or on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/Yoga2tao 



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